Some children do not want to go to school and the reasons can be several, but the main one is that they do not want to separate from their parents, they know that they are safe with them and receive all kinds of attention. They are not the only ones who suffer, we also keep our hearts in a fist if we see that he has to stay in school with tears and asking us to come with us. It may seem that we are cruel to them, but in most cases, once they have crossed the class threshold and meet with their classmates to play games and activities, they forget their irrational fear.
For these children, it is harder to attend school or daycare after a weekend, vacations, if you have been sick for several days or after a special event in the family, such as the death of a family member, a move and change of school…
Sometimes they look for excuses, in the case of a friend, her girl always asks her to poop when she has already put her up to the jacket, or pretends to have a tummy ache, a throat, etc., just before going to school. Symptoms that disappear if they are allowed to stay at home, but that reappear the next morning. As parents, we must understand that, much to our regret, it is necessary for our child to attend school, otherwise it could develop social or school problems. Of course, there are days when if mom or dad are at home and still going to daycare, you can stay, but you have to take advantage of it to continue doing activities and not take it as usual.
The specialists give advice that can be useful, for example, not prolonging the farewell, a kiss and a see you later is enough, you can also be accompanied someday by another person, grandparents for example. We should not be worried, that the child sees that we are calm and not take advantage to disappear in a moment of dismissal of our son, this would baffle him. Being always punctual when picking up school will make you feel safer.
If you notice that your fear of going to school is temporary, do not worry much, it will happen over time, but if what the child has is real fear, do not hesitate to consult with the specialist, you may be hiding a problem that if you do not know Solve will drag it with you.
