A couple of days ago I shared the position of the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) about physical punishment and shouting as a way to discipline children: totally against. And besides that, he published 10 keys so that fathers and mothers can educate without shouting or punishment.
Although they are very effective and positive keys, some people wonder how to apply them to their children according to their age. For it, the AAP has also shared positive discipline advice by ages and stages.
Through its website for parents, the AAP shares articles, tips and information of interest about the health, parenting and care of children. As part of his recent statement published in his Pediatrics magazine, have shared and updated their recommendations to carry out a positive upbringing at home.
In Babies and more The seven definitive tips to educate your children (according to Harvard psychologists)We share your recommendations of healthy and effective advice to carry out a positive discipline by ages and stages at home.
Babies
For babies, who are considered from newborn to twelve months old, recommend the following:
Babies learn by watching what you do, so set the example of the behaviors you expect from them.
Uses positive language To guide your baby. For example, instead of saying "Don't get up," say "It's time to be seated."
Keep the word "no" for the most important things, such as security. Limit the use or need to say "no", moving dangerous or tempting objects away from their reach.
Distract and replace a dangerous or prohibited object with one that is appropriate For him to play, it is a good strategy at this age.
All children, including babies, need constant discipline, so talk to your partner, family and caregivers or nannies, to lay down basic rules that everyone should follow.
Small children
For young children or toddlers, whose ages range between one and three years, these are his recommendations:
Your son begin to recognize what is allowed of what is not, but you might try to try some rules to see your reaction. Pay attention and recognize the behaviors you like, and ignore those you want to stop doing. Redirect to a different activity when necessary.
Tantrums or tantrums may become more common while your child has difficulty mastering new skills or situations. Recognize and anticipate those things that may be a trigger for these, such as feeling tired or being hungry, and help him avoid them with naps and meals on time.
Teach your child to not hit, bite or use other aggressive behaviors. Model nonviolent behavior by not reprimanding him with physical punishment and handling problems or differences with your partner in a constructive way.
Stay consistent when setting limits. Try to take breaks or moments to reassure him if necessary.
Recognize when there are conflicts between siblings, but avoid taking sides. For example, if a discussion about a toy arises, the toy can be saved.
Preschool age
Preschoolers are those who have between three and five years, and for them they recommend the following positive parenting tips:
Preschoolers are still trying to understand how and why things work, as well as the effect their actions have. While they learn about proper behavior, you can expect them to continue testing the limits of parents and siblings.
Begin to assign you age-appropriate tasks, how to store your toys after using them. Give directions easy to follow and step by step. Reward him with praise when he meets them.
In Babies and more Five basic steps to breed positively and without punishmentLet your child make decisions within several acceptable alternatives, redirecting and setting limits that are prudent.
Teach your child to treat others as he wishes to be treated.
Explain that it's okay to feel upset sometimes, but don't hurt someone or break objects. Teach them how to manage their negative feelings in a positive way, such as talking about them.
To resolve conflicts, use pauses or moments to reassure him, or eliminate the origin of the conflict (as the toy example).
Primary school children
The AAP considers in this group the children of five to 12 years old, and its recommendations are as follows:
Your children begin to understand the difference between what is right and what is wrong. Talk to him about the options he has in difficult situations, what the good and bad options are, and what could happen depending on how he decides to act.
Talk about the expectations your family has and the reasonable consequences in case of not following family rules.
Provides a balance between privileges and responsibilities, giving children greater privileges when they follow the rules of good behavior.
Continue teaching and showing you about patience, concern and respect towards other people.
Don't let yourself and others use corporal punishment. If you live in an area or area where this type of discipline is allowed in schools, you have the right to request that your child not be beaten.
Teenagers
The age range of adolescence is considered from 12 to 18 years old, and for this stage that can become somewhat challenging for parents, the AAP recommends the following:
As your child develops more independent decision-making skills, you must shoot this with unconditional love and support it with clear expectations, rules and limits.
He continues to show much affection and attention. Make time every day to talk to him. Young people are more likely to make healthy choices, if they are more connected or linked to their family members.
Meet your teenage son's friends, and talk about responsible and respectful relationships.
Recognize their efforts, achievements and triumphs in what they do, and also in what they don't. He commended his decision to avoid the use of tobacco, electronic cigarettes, alcohol or other drugs. Set a good example through your own responsible use of alcohol and other substances.
With these positive discipline councils of the American Academy of Pediatrics by ages and stages, it will be easier to know how to act and guide our children to have a healthy development, without resorting to corporal punishment or shouting.
