We have already spoken on occasion of the consequences of whipping, both emotionally and physically in children, but leaving aside this and even the obvious moral implication of using force imposition and causing harm to a child who depends of us, there is another question, of a purely practical nature that I want to address: the whipping is useless.
We can trace many studies that point out, against the philosophers of the so-called "scourge in time", that criminals have generally suffered violent treatment in childhood, although the seriousness of these is not clear.
However, it is evident that the use of force as a method of imposition on a spirit in formation leaves its mark, and one of the consequences of this custom is that the use of violence to achieve ends be justified and that the fort be imposed on the helpless.
Surely the parents who use the cheek or the scourge do not do it with a logical educational programming, but as a resource when everything surpasses them and they do not know how to act. In my opinion, having received lashes as a child makes it easier to understand their use or can be repeated, however, children who have not received whips will hardly see it as normal for their future children.
Let's be honest, nobody likes to get hitAll children feel emotionally sore at this type of loss of adult roles that should take care of them.
No, nobody likes us. Although, if our parents did it it will cost us a lot to face the idea that they did wrong and that there are other ways of educating more appropriate. But there are. Hitting a child with a scourge means that we no longer have educational resources. It is a failure of the adult, an impulse that, in a responsible way, we must learn to control.
What children lose their nerves is no excuse, let's say the truth. We all have plenty of reasons to lose our nerves to many adults, but we would not give them a scourge to correct them and I doubt very much that they would not give them to children and that is why they behave badly.
Hitting is not right, we all know that, and still not well even if it was worth something, because, if so, our legal systems would include it as a penalty for crimes or psychologists would use it for their therapies. But it is not done, because it is neither moral nor good for anything.
Also, deny me that sometimes your neighbors get fed up, the man who touches the whistle in the traffic jam, the one who improperly advances, the one who does not stop at the traffic light, the boss, that co-worker who is entangled and criticized, the one who spits on the street or the one who leaves his dog's poop on the sidewalk. But we would never give them a colleague or a scourge to correct them, among other things, because we play each other's face.
Something that children cannot do. And that is the key, the children are whipped because they cannot return them, and that way, with the justification of educating them, correcting them or that they have made us lose our nerves, we discharge the rage accumulated by everything else.
It is not easy to accept, adults do not want to face our mistakes and weaknesses, but I assure you that having the courage to look directly makes us much stronger and noble. And, deep down, it's what we all want to show by example to children. We all have limitations, but we are also able to learn and let out the enormous love that we have inside.
We will return to this question, because it is one of the keys to understand that the scourges are not educational, they are useless, because we always have to keep in mind that our children will not be small as long as they grow up, when they are 12 or 15 years old, they will continue to need our guidance but then they no longer accept that we put their hands on them.
