We find it very difficult to ask for forgiveness, I mean adults. But we must learn to apologize, especially to our children. Admitting our mistakes does not prevent the damage that we have caused, but, when it is sincere and implies an authentic understanding of the ruling, together with the purpose of changing the behavior, if it helps those who have suffered because of us to accept what happened, not feel guilty for our bad reaction and learn that when we do something wrong we should apologize.
For children, asking for forgiveness is easier. They, if we have not pressed them with guilt, know how to forgive. They forgive us when we shout or lose our nerves, they love us the same, but that does not mean that we will have infinite credit. Children learn from us. Words hurt and heal.
If we do not ask forgiveness they assimilate that asking for forgiveness is unnecessary or undermines their position, that they are less worthy if they ask for it. Therefore, if we do not ask your heart for forgiveness, we will only get, at most and pressing them, to ask for it with your mouth, or to use it as a meaningless bullet. But what we want is for them to be responsible, not for easy solutions to impose their positions.
We must learn to truly apologize, to rectify and to show children that we are not authorities that are never wrong. It's a lie, we are wrong. We must keep in mind that we too would have liked our parents to apologize.
And only if We learn to apologize We will have their true confidence, knowing that their models in life know how to admit their mistakes and are able to recognize them.
